So now I'm asking myself, What is it about this topic that freezes me? (See previous post to understand what I'm talking about)
It isn't that I don't think interpersonal relations are important - in fact, I think they are more important than anything else in life. It's not that I can't maintain a relationship - au contraire, I almost NEVER lose people. If you become my friend, it's a life-time sentence. I HATE losing anyone. I mourn every friend I'm no longer in touch with. I go to extreme lengths to hold onto people. For example, I've been married to the same man for 37 years. Can't stand him. Never could. But I'll be damned if I'll lose him! (Okay, that bit about my husband is a joke, he's really a nice guy, although there have been a few times during our marriage when I've been tempted to misplace him for a while...)
Relationships. Well, here's the important thing to remember, the only thing that really matters: people die, and there's nothing you can do about it. You can never have them back. You can never spend another hour with them. So whoever you care about, as long as you both care about each other, hold on to them with everything you've got, like nothing else matters. Because nothing else matters.
I don't mean don't fight. The only time people don't disagree is when one is afraid to disagree with the other. Not healthy. I don't mean stay in a violent or emotionally harmful relationship - I am not a proponent of abusive or enabling relationships. But there are people who love each other - partners, friends who were once very close, siblings, parents and children - who haven't spoken to each other in years. They let go. Before they had to.
Not me. They'll have to pry my white-knucked fingers loose from the people I love to put them in the grave. And nothing short of death will do it.
That's all I've got to say about relationships. That's all I know about 'em.
It isn't that I don't think interpersonal relations are important - in fact, I think they are more important than anything else in life. It's not that I can't maintain a relationship - au contraire, I almost NEVER lose people. If you become my friend, it's a life-time sentence. I HATE losing anyone. I mourn every friend I'm no longer in touch with. I go to extreme lengths to hold onto people. For example, I've been married to the same man for 37 years. Can't stand him. Never could. But I'll be damned if I'll lose him! (Okay, that bit about my husband is a joke, he's really a nice guy, although there have been a few times during our marriage when I've been tempted to misplace him for a while...)
Relationships. Well, here's the important thing to remember, the only thing that really matters: people die, and there's nothing you can do about it. You can never have them back. You can never spend another hour with them. So whoever you care about, as long as you both care about each other, hold on to them with everything you've got, like nothing else matters. Because nothing else matters.
I don't mean don't fight. The only time people don't disagree is when one is afraid to disagree with the other. Not healthy. I don't mean stay in a violent or emotionally harmful relationship - I am not a proponent of abusive or enabling relationships. But there are people who love each other - partners, friends who were once very close, siblings, parents and children - who haven't spoken to each other in years. They let go. Before they had to.
Not me. They'll have to pry my white-knucked fingers loose from the people I love to put them in the grave. And nothing short of death will do it.
That's all I've got to say about relationships. That's all I know about 'em.
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